Not necessarily mental illnesses per se, but personality disorders are psychological conditions that affect people and their relationships.
From wikipedia:
Personality disorders are defined by the American Psychiatric Association (APA) as “an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it”. These patterns, as noted, are inflexible and pervasive across many situations, due in large part to the fact that such behavior is ego-syntonic (i.e., the patterns are consistent with the ego integrity of the individual), and therefore, perceived to be appropriate by that individual. The onset of these patterns of behavior can typically be traced back to late adolescence and the beginning of adulthood, and, in rare instances, childhood.
Similar Minds has a good summary of personality disorders:
The first group are the Eccentric Personality Disorders. These people often appear strange or peculiar to others.
- Paranoid Personality Disorder – individual generally tends to interpret the actions of others as threatening.
- Schizoid Personality Disorder – individual generally detached from social relationships, and shows a narrow range of emotional expression in various social settings.
- Schizotypal Personality Disorder – individual is uncomfortable in close relationships, has thought or perceptual distortions, and peculiarities of behavior.
The second group are the Dramatic Personality Disorders. These people have intense emotional mood swings and distorted perceptions of themselves and impulsive behaviours.
- Antisocial Personality Disorder – individual shows a pervasive disregard for, and violation of, the rights of others.
- Borderline Personality Disorder – individual shows a generalized pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image, and observable emotions, and significant impulsiveness.
- Histrionic Personality Disorder – individual often displays excessive emotionality and attention seeking in various contexts. They tend to overreact to other people, and are often perceived as shallow and self-centered.
- Narcissistic Personality Disorder – individual has a grandiose view of themselves, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy that begins by early adulthood and is present in various situations. These individuals are very demanding in their relationships.
The third group are the Anxious Personality Disorders. These people are often fearful and anxious of one or many things.
- Avoidant Personality Disorder – individual is socially inhibited, feels inadequate, and is oversensitive to criticism
- Dependent Personality Disorder – individual shows an extreme need to be taken care of that leads to fears of separation, and passive and clinging behavior.
- Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder – individual is preoccupied with orderliness, perfectionism, and control at the expense of flexibility, openness, and efficiency.
Similar minds also has a test for personality disorders you can take here.
Update: under the DSM-IV, some previously identified disorders were dropped from the 3 clusters above and remain under the classification: “Not Specified” or “Needing Further Study”. Find out more here.
Hi,
I think many mental health professionals now consider PDs to be mental illnesses. There is now support for biological processes that are correlated PDs, and many (for example, borderline personality disorder) are often so severe as to be the primary presenting problem.
Interesting and thanks.
I have high expectations that as time passes and more studies are conducted, medical science will find biological processes behind most disorders that are currently inexplicable.
Likely similar to how common diseases were once considered mystical during the medieval eras–which we are now moving ever away from.
I have borderline personality disorder, and I have started a blog to document my journey. Thanks for listing the various disorders.
can you invite me to your blog please. thank you
I admire and applaud your courage to document your experiences Kali. I wish you well on your journey.
i have all of them…..
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I have a friend who I am extremely worried about, however I cannot bring this issue to their attention because of the personality disorder that he/she presents. Also this person is already doing enough to me behind my back and who knows what other damage could arise from this person. I have the authorities investigating this and it has not been pleasant. My personality would rather help someone than kick a “so called friendship” to the curb. Everyone has asked me to cut this person loose, but I can’t keep them out of my computer or other things. Long story…….
It is a fairly new, or newly observed disorder. I believe it starts with a S. I am hoping you could provide the name & information about this disorder.
Person portrays true undying friendship, but is a backstabber and will take every known opportunity to sabotage another if given the tools, such as personal information, health issues, names of doctors, jobs, etc.
Will use this information to make up stories to try to have associates/friends fired from jobs, dismissed from doctors, use people in job situations such as banks, credit unions, social services, police stations, etc… to be nosy or start trouble. Basically will be thrilled with the downfall, bad luck or anything negative that can happen.
There is a medical show on television affiliate station ABC called The Doctors who briefly discussed this condition, but I did not catch the name of the disorder.
Is there any information you can provide on this? I would greatly appreciate it.
Thank You,
Sandra
P.S.
Just to add for above reference: Above said person has “supposedly” job, married, should not have financial worries that are major. Above average health, speaks of many friends, not homebound or disabled or on medication that could cause this behavior.
Is this person just hateful with a heart and soul from the devil or can certain vitamins/minerals be lacking, or medication and or counseling given?
Or does this person have to redeem themselves before going to heaven with a satisfied soul…….
They have also stolen from me and my whereabouts in the past.
What can this be?
There are a lot of proposed personality disorders and psychological conditions, although from quick reading, your friend sounds like a Narcissist at heart. Check this link and see if it matches.
I had a person in my life who did all that to me and many others. She has a criminal mind. She is narcistic, paranoid and a Type two Bully. Those are the people who are not comfortable unless other people are suffering. They move from target to target but someone is always the hapless victim. Many times the other people around who arent the current target wont know whats going on. Only the victim. Thats the payday for Miss Bully number two. She is swallowed up of Jealousy and rage and I dont know what it would take to fix her.I moved away. My opinion is a little bad genes mixed up with bad growing up environment and she is swimming in an unbleievably empty abyss. Putting the poison in the target though doesnt ease her pain. To really turn her loose on someone is for that person to become successful. She cant handle that. Shes worse off than me. I escaped.
Thanks for sharing your story, and I’m happy that you have been able to extricate yourself from that destructive relationship.
I have a question: are you dealing with a psychopath? Check out this article for some interesting views on these kinds of people.
I take on the personality of any main character after I watch a movie. I also didn’t ever really think that I had a personality disorder but I’d made up personalities to help me get through life. I’m not even out of middle school yet.
be careful when imitating different characters from media. it can be dangerous for any diagnosis that might occur in d future. the cues of characters in movies are sequentially formed while human natural behavior are meant to be instinctual. Some behavior may not be easily unlearned.
I have a slight problem. I show signs for MPD (signs being I have multiple personalities), but the problem is, some of the symptoms don’t line up. They are there, they take control, but I have no memory loss. I’ve been doing a lot of research and nothing is showing me what’s wrong. I know I need to go to a hospital and get diagnosed, but before I do, maybe you can explain it? Thank you.
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I am doing a paper on personality disorders. What kinds of illiness falls under that category. I need examples please Sue
Which category are you referring to?
Gee wirilkels, that’s such a great post!
I’m not exactly sure if I even have a personality disorder … but I kinda want to find an explanation for why I’ve been acting the way that I have. Sidenote: I am 17 years old and still in high school, im fairly intelligent and am taking 4 college classes and doing well in them. Here are examples:
Trouble sleeping, trouble getting out of bed when I wake. When I am at school I give myself a pep talk about how great it’s gunna be to do my homework and get good grades, but by the time i get home i feel like it’s not worth it and end up going upstairs and laying in my bed
(sometimes thinking and other times sleeping or just laying there thinking about nothing.)
Don’t eat breakfast because I am not hungry, don’t eat much at lunch or dinner but i snack excessively in between even when im not hungry.
I am consistently angry sometimes without a reason and then later on after the anger has vanished I realize that I really had no reason to react with that much hostility.
After I am yelled at( even for small things like forgetting something) I go upstairs and cry constantly for about an hour and am sometimes left with a desire to hurt myself and feelings of worthlessness.
When i text my friends, occasionally it takes them a while to text back. While waiting i am constantly worried that they’ve gotten the text and havent texted back bc they dont want to.
Sometimes I react angrily without actually feeling that amount of anger, kind of like that’s how I’m supposed to react but I can’t muster the feeling behing it, kinda of like a hollow feeling.
However there are times when I have flare ups and get angry with mostly just my parents. I know I shouldn’t, but I hate talking to them because I hate them asking questions, even if they are just about did i get all the hangers or did you turn in that paper. I get angry when they talk to them for no apparent reason, even when they’re just trying to make a friendly conversation. But there are times when I am happy to talk to them, oddly it happens later at night though.( for some reason i am happier at night)
I would like to know if you beleive if my behanior exhibits those of a personality disorder or if im just showing symptoms of being a teenager in high school trying to work her way to a future.
^ Being self-conscious is not a disorder. Also in many cases, people with personality disorders are not aware of their behaviour being indicative of anything other than normal.
Doesn’t hurt to see a counselor (or therapist, or any equivalent friendly ear) though if you need help working through your life struggles.
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Hi, I think my husband suffers from NPD, his mother a psychologist thinks it is bi-polar. He has symptoms of grandousity, very demanding, He belittles me all the time. He never takes accountabilty for anything, it is always someone elses fault. He always likes to introduce himself with inflated credentials even when it is not important. Everything good is because of him, everything bad is due to someones elses actions or lack of action. I think I may have avoidant disorder heightened by the things he says to me. I love him and i know it probably is not his fault. I don’t know how to help him, because he sees nothing wrong with him, only that i need therapy. Please help me help him, because of the disorder I believe he has, will also keep him from seeking help
From what I’ve read on NPD, it’s rather destructive on relationships, and usually the recourse is to be isolated from the person suffering.
A fellow blogger–alwaysjan, maintains a blog which discusses NPD quite extensively. Check out one of her latest posts here:
Sounds like Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder which would be a typical match for you being in the same category of anxious personality types. This is the best article: http://www.ocdonline.com/articlephillipson6.php
Lisa, many people have had bad experiences with NPD and Antisocial personalities and there are many blogs on the Internet about them.
The traits and patterns are so similar, that they are almost predictable. Get support and help for yourself. Remember that you can not fix anyone. Best wishes.
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I’ve been going to a therapist for sometime now. I’m afraid because I have spells where everything is closing in on me and I pass out. I cry and pray that I could be normal. I used to play on pool teams and play softball but I’ve stopped all of it in the last year. My son is in prison right now waiting for court hearing and I have a daughter who had a brain aneurysm and a major stroke. This happened a year ago and she has been sent by lifestar to KU Med several times. She lost her memory and is learning to walk again. I can’t seem to keep myself in check and don’t know what to do. My therapist is very good with me but I’m to the point where I’m afraid I’ll have an attack which I’ve had in the past. I just want more help.
Thank you.
Rena
i would go see a psyciatrist. i think you are having anxiety or panick attacks. This real and you do feel like you will die. There are many meds available to helpp prevent or control and leeson the symptoms.
Hello, I believe is suffer from a personality disorder, I am easily angered, quick to anger. Show no empathy or interest in any people around me. Feel depressed at times, signs of worrying and jealousy to others in better financial situations. And then very happy suddenly. I am in a long term relationship of which I believe to be in love. Didn’t have the best upbringing, I am classed as working class, car and house.
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Everyone should have the courage to look first look at themselves…check for problems with relationships with others.(Toxic Relationship)It is not possible for an individual to make an assessment of themselves. You could be self deceived or in denial. It would be wise to ask themselves and check it with three other close friends to ask honestly if they treat others or themselves in an unhealthy ways. I don’t think anyone wakes up in the morning and tells themselves they want to treat others in an unhealthy way.We are taught how to treat others. We teach others how to treat us.
Paula, I totally agree with your statements. And I have a comment about “teaching others how to treat us” and a paradox. Sometimes when we do this, which is a healthy thing to do, it seems that it bounces back to us depending who we “teach” (bounces back in a bad way), By this I mean that those people “bite” back or make the one setting boundaries appear to be the “bad guy”. This is EXTREMELY difficult to deal with, depressing, and downright wrong. This is so circular and it tells me that those people do not have a healthy self-concept. Ever run into this phenomenon and what are your thoughts?
I suspect that my dad has a personality disorder. He is unaware of other’s feelings, had constant mood swings, is constantly judging to family as if we are his employees, he needs everything to be in order or he just get angry, he complains about EVERYTHING. There is no way to have a normal conversation with him anymore….
Im 40 now, however growing up, my father was VERY much the same way, and Hid behind alcohol. In fact, still does. I try to have any kind of civil conversation, but to know avail, something Ive done, the way im doing it, or say ends up in him upset or still feeling the need to be angry with me for one reason or another. Some people are just raised in a hostile environment, and are in a rut…the thought of actually changing their ways is unheard of…That would mean a whole new batch of angers and things they dont know how to cope with….Its the easiest reaction to have, id say its more of a guard than anything. At the time, my father wasnt happy in his marriage, and eventually led to a divorce when i was very young….Now, hes re-married, and right back to miserable again, and resumes his daily drinking for 2 reasons……to forget about how unhappy he is, plus he doesnt have to deal with confrontation when he gets home. Divorce you say? Ive asked why he doesnt, his response being, “theres NO way im starting all over again”. understandable, but as for myself, i was in a similar destructive pattern that I myself Broke… Divorce, (my wife cheated on me), Anger management, and stayed single for almost 14 years now. Yes I date now and then, but not often. I haver two GREAT sons, i hear im a decent looking guy, have a small house on a lake, the boat, the Harley, all the toys a guy could want, and recently started seeing someone…..and i can HONESTLY say ive never been happier in my life as the day my sons were born… None the less, what im getting at is, the individual has to WANT to be a different, better person. Im not so sure the anger that he has(your father) is so much a disorder, but a man whos not getting any younger and is afraid of the UNKNOWN alternative…..what would people think of this angry man who is suddenly changing and happpy? Possibly people like that have just never been…. sorry for the rant….just my 2 centrs..
I have met people who don’t seem to realize their surroundings. They also have some similarities, like being more concerned with what the neighbor is doing other than the big problem that may be on the tv news. Perhaps more concerned with simpler things. They may have difficulty understanding good literature and may read only cheap romance novels. My friend calls these people “unaware”. My mother calls these people, unwhole people. They may not know who the Secretary of State is nor the fact United States just had an election.
Normal people seem to see things that are out of place in their home. Not so much hoard, but perhaps a blanket that fell off a bed. These people wouldn’t realize it.
They often cancel appointments, or never show up at all. Is there a name for this type of thinking?
Maybe dense or insensitive? Wouldn’t necessarily call it a disorder–unless you’ve ruled out “normal” reasons for them to be disconnected to their surroundings.
I’m a guy with Generalized Anxiety Disorder who has parents with severe narcissistic personality disorder to me based on their relationship. Not only that, my mother has borderline, schizoid (where relationships never fell into place), and my dad have paranoid personality disorder because hes so damn threatened about being defensive to how its never him being looked at and then he uses that against you. And by the way, my GAD has been off the roof but its gone down. My parents separated three years ago, which actually was a bad move for me, because all that did was make them more narcissistic or delusional or anxious or whatever you want to call it to me than in those moments of when shit went wrong with me there. It had turned into a complete disaster between my dad and I, now were doing much better, not that hes not a narcissistic person to me but im doing much better and it’s not ugly like it was.
On a separate note, im 26, what i think needs to be addressed in a proposition is how parents shouldnt be in control of their children below the age of 18. There are many fucked up parents out there, and if your kid has to go to therapy because of your parents at a very young age, then thats really bad for the child. I didnt start going to therapy til i was 18 lol. But boy did i struggle before then.
and who doesn’t have a personality disorder? if you know someone sane let me know.
Nini, there are many, many people out there without a personality disorder. You need to self-analyze about why you even asked this question.
What’s the disorder label one can apply to someone who recognises that he or she has grown up in a sick, twisted, perverted culture that calls itself ‘civilised’ and yet turns a blind eye to the fact that 25,000 human beings die globally every day from starvation or trivially preventable diseases and, moreover, thinks that it is ‘normal’ to endlessly pollute its environment in the pursuit of the almighty buck?
Good question, pedantry. Good question. That would warrant a long discussion.
No Lori it doesn’t warrant a long answer. The question is explicit in that it asks about the disorder of a person who has grown up in such an environment. You do not necessarily have a disorder unless you participate in or help to advance such a culture. Association must be evidenced by action and thought (planning, organizing, etc.). Just because you’re a turtle in a bowl of fish, does that make you a fish?
Michael, this is part of the problem: people saying “no” right away as a reaction to someone else’s opinion and view as you just did. I agree with you as this question can be answered simply; however, it can ALSO warrant a deep, philosophical answer if people are willing to sit down and take the time to have a conversation, respecting the contributions of others. This is how we find solutions.
Here is a great quote: “The true spirit of conversation consists in building on another man’s observation, not overturning it”.
At the risk of incurring your ‘people-saying-no-right-away’ wrath, IMO my question can only be ‘answered simply’ if one has a closed mind. Sitting on the fence can result in splinters in the bum.
A turtle in a bowl of fish-that-look-like-turtles will think he’s a fish, as will all the other turtlefishies. They’ll all feel that something’s not quite right, but will be unable to put their fins on the nature of the problem.
Did someone’s feelings get hurt here? Aw. Fortunately there ARE simple answers to some of the most complex questions and problems in life. Unfortunately this society wants to sit around and banter words back and forth at the expense of being problem-solving prone.That’s why we’re in such a deep pit now. We didn’t simply solve problems when we could, before we learned how to spend fifty years discussing it. We spent too much time growing huge egos. Your ego is the problem. Your pride is the problem. With some, your narcisissm is the problem. Notice how Micky Mouse here uses quite the list of passive-aggressive remarks, sometimes sidestepping the initital issue. We’ve become so good at that. We love to hear our own selves chattering away. One can speak all day and yet say nothing. As I say, there are simple answers as long as we get out of the way and use reason and logic. Now, THERE’S a quote for you. Take that one and pick it apart for the next 20 years. And heaven forbid the wrath incurred of someone’s feelings or ego that got bruised in the process of actually solving a problem. No we wouldn’t that would we. Ten wise people encounted a stone in the road and spent five years discussing how to remove it when suddenly a homeless man walked around the corner, picked up the stone, and tossed it to the side of the road, then walked on.
“… this society wants to sit around and banter words back and forth at the expense of being problem-solving prone.That’s why we’re in such a deep pit now.”
If there were any simple answers, they would have been applied long ago, and we wouldn’t still be digging.
“One can speak all day and yet say nothing.”
Quite so. See ‘stupidity’ at the end of my (off-topic) post here. I think we agree more than you appear to think we do.
I very much like your other comment. Mine was directed more at Lori’s answer. I read between the lines, have studied much therapy, plan to be a life coach, been married twice, have dated over 35 women, and I’m quite spiritual. With many people, the crux of the matter is that though they don’t want to hear something, they need to. I’ve been solution oriented all my life (gee, aren’t most men) and don’t need to be “informed” to be. If anyone wants to reply to anything I post, first view me as Mr. Spock. I use logic and reason and have always dealt with any situation head on. No time for games. And you’re right on target about the wrath.
@Michael “Mine was directed more at Lori’s answer.”
Ah! My mistake.
Krystina, I’d like to speak with you about your issues if you’d let me. I know where you’re at in life and I believe I can help you with a lot of it.
First of all, where did you get the “wrath” thing, pedantry? Projecting your discomfort onto someone else’s innocuous opinion? If you all re-read my comment, you will see that I actually agreed with you. But I also like your statement: “If there were any simple answers, they would have been applied long ago, and we wouldn’t still be digging”.
Here is another quote applicable to some of these postings: The warrior who trusts his path doesn’t need to prove the other is wrong~Paulo Coelho
Also, it is better to clarify someone else’s meaning instead of reading in between the lines and projecting your own feelings onto another. And you wonder why it takes so long to fix something that is not complex. “With many people, the crux of the matter is that though they don’t want to hear something, they need to”…..YES SIR!!! Let us have an intelligent conversation about this topic and help others without projecting our feelings on another and defining their realities.
The wrath thing needs no explanation. It’s plain as day. And all this talk about projecting feelings, etc. is the perfect example of why we’re in this mess; too much talk, being offended, and no action. A person may talk forever and say nothing and accomplish nothing. As far as realities, there is only one reality, not one for you and one for me. Generally what one passively-aggessively criticizes, is the very thing that that same person does. Therefore, THEY are projecting. Know a tree by the fruit it bears. As I stated, your ego is your biggest problem, and often many people are so entrenched in ego that they can’t see the truth. Lose your inflated ego and gain the world. Know the truth, and the truth will set you free. Decline this, and you will never dig yourself out of the pit. In addition, is keeping alive a monstrous ego a personality disorder? Of course it is, since it keeps us from becoming fully functioning adults. And all the words in the world can’t make us that. The power lies in our subconscious and superconcious. Humility, shame, and accepting responsibility for our words and actions are becoming quickly lost in this society. On another note, do the school shooters have personality disorders? Probably, but we made them that way. Whoever contributed to taking spirituality, values, morals, and the ten commandments (thou shalt not kill) out of the schools, have contributed to their actions. Just like most people have contributed to a government they fear or hate, because those people fear change and so continue electing the same parties, and thus we have the same problems over and over and we talk and talk and again, nothing virtuous gets achieved. I’m not a pessimist, but a realist and idealist both. What rule says they can’t coexist simultaniously within me? We were endowed with the qualities of reason and logic. It’s time to use them both. So there… you’ve heard something you NEEDED to hear but didn’t want to. Now let the wrath begin again.
Whew. Good posting and thoughts but I will not participate anymore with someone who only desires for himself to be understood, misunderstands me, and attempts to define my reality. Goodbye.
And they say men are egotistical snobs. I learn something every day to laugh about.
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Hello Filomena. It is a pretty good site yet even here we find people who are offended easily, some who don’t like hearing the truth, and it’s easy to see that such people, though few, have anger issues and I consider this dysfunctional. They need help. But they would never admit that. Pride is a powerful defense mechanism. A few years back I spoke with my son about dysfunction and ubelievably he stated, “Dad, everyone is dysfunctional in some way or other.” I’m not yet sure I agree with him, but then everyone can have an opinion as long as we learn to differentiate fact from opinion. It’s when we can’t drop our ego and accept truth or at least think about our own character defects that we run into difficulties. High sounding words don’t impress me even though I’m an author. Our character defects are known by others more than we know them because in each of us there are two people: the person we see from the inside, and the person people see from the outside. They see us clearly also but in a different way. All in all I’ve seen some pretty good discussions here as long as people can deflate their ego and learn to not be offended at every little comment. It is then that people can discuss things as adults. We need to learn not “fall off our chairs” at what people say. My personal statement is: “Lose your ego and gain the world.” This follows a teaching of Jesus when he said, “Lose your life and you will find it.” I’ve just published a book on Amazon and am gearing up to publish my next one. It’s all quite exciting because it was a life goal for me to be published. Now that it’s done, my new goal is to be a life coach and I already have a small clientele who have benefited from my help. They are so much happier than they’ve ever been. My goal is simply to help people. This is why my prices are low. Some, however, are not open enough and use their defense mechanism to avoid facing the pain of the truth. But that pain is exactly what they need to hear, face, deal with, and discard. I teach them how to be do that. I always say “there’s people that are out just searching to be offended. I teach people to be happy and enlightened.
I spoke with my son about dysfunction and ubelievably he stated, “Dad, everyone is dysfunctional in some way or other.”
While I hear what you’re saying about being unsure whether you believe this, I think it’s absolutely correct on the grounds that the term ‘dysfunctional’ is wholly subjective.
… in each of us there are two people: the person we see from the inside, and the person people see from the outside.
You’re missing a few people. Cyberspace creates the potential for at least one more person; the face revealed ‘here’ need not be (is almost certainly not) the one perceived IRL.
Correct me if I’m wrong, but “subjective” would mean that an outsider cannot distinguish dysfunction. Would not the term be objective? And even so, wouldn’t both terms apply in the end if both people were aware of the dysfunction? As far as the “two people” issue, the cyberspace person is only a projection of the inner person. My thrust was dealing live people in physical terms. I would have thought that would be implied. If we use your logic, wouldn’t we have several people, such as the one we know from telephone, email, facebook comments, and other sources including the two I mentioned? This was not what I was referring to. My comment was geared toward who we really are inside, as opposed to how others know us…. person to person… not cyberspace to cyberspace. To engage in your assertion would be to bring up a totally different topic.
Narp.
subjective: Formed, as in opinions, based upon a person’s feelings or intuition, not upon observation or reasoning; coming more from within the observer than from observations of the external environment.
objective: Of or relating to a material object, actual existence or reality.
Re: 2 peeps vs more: we are, each of us, ‘several people’, as you suggest.
‘Who we really are inside’ is, as you pointed out earlier, one thing: how we relate to the outside world is dependent upon a myriad of influences. Here we are, for instance, you and I: two complete strangers having a conversation that would simply not take place in your “physical terms”. Were we to meet in, for instance, a pub, the closest we might come to communication would probably be an exchange of glances lasting less than a second.
is it sad that i a 13 yr old am doing a research study on these on my free time
That is not sad, Brianna! That is a good thing! You are smart, studying a topic such as this!
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Brianna I left another comment but it didn’t publish. Don’t set up an obstacle using judgments like this. It hurts our spiritual growth. Stay positive. Imagine an 80 year old person saying the same thing you said. Would you not be astonished and happy for them?
Ok someone help me understand this person Im around everyday. He is extremely negative,instigates, is very nosy and strangely doesn’t get offended even when someone tells him things that would hurt anyone’s feelings! He is very blunt to a fault and doesn’t have friends. All i know is that he was the only child. I just want to better understand this person.
He is a bully, and takes advantage of people because they let him. If he is so blunt, then some of you should take him into a hallway and be blunt with him. He hasn’t grown up because he doesn’t want to, and no one will step up to the plate and put him in his place. If he won’t respond to therapy or telling him outright, then you have no choice but to take the next step. For now, the best thing you can do is ignore him. Don’t let it bother you. Keep remembering it’s his problem. You can’t understand him unless he sits down and tells you whey he does each thing he does, and then you have to deal with each one, and you don’t have the time for that. That’s the job of a therapist. If he’s young, all you say makes even more sense.
what is it called when someone takes on the problems of others as their own, even their suffering and pain
An empath?
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